Who do you think is more shallow?

Live Vote


People who date someone only for their money?

vs

People who date someone only for their looks?

LOVE ME, SPOIL ME!

Sunday Times lifestyle frontpage news highlighted the demands of the Singaporean women and...

Ms fuji, 41, MD of an ad agency does not understand all the fuss, "In Japan, many women of my generation don't expect men to do anything special for them. It's nice if he opens the door for me, but I'm physically capable of opening them myself. If he's rich, he can settle the bill but I will be equally fine of going dutch."

Man enough to carry her handbag?

"Whereof one cannot speak, thereof one must be silent." Ludwig Wittgenstein

Valentine: The New Rules Of Attraction

Old rule: You can tell if you’re truly attracted to someone in three seconds
New rule: You can’t tell if you’re truly attracted to someone until you’ve had three dates

Old rule: Your mate must meet all the criteria on your “must list”
New rule: A “must list” looks great on paper, but paper won’t keep you warm at night

Old rule: Opposites attract
New rule: Opposites distract

Old rule: Your date’s record collection (or DVD library, or bookshelf) mirrors yours—so you must be soul mates
New rule: You want a person, not an iPod playlist

Old rule: Your first kiss should be a toe-curling experience
New rule: Your first kiss is inconsequential

Old rule: When it’s true love, you think about this person constantly
New rule: When it’s true love, thinking about this person makes you feel good

Nina Malkin is the author of 6X: The Uncensored Confessions

Stickgal

Mr. Wrong - 10 Types

Stickgal, an attractive and intelligent cabin gal muses about her (un)desirable other half in her blog?!

Mr. Wrong 1 - The Swindler


Mr. Wrong 2 -The Big Flirt


Mr. Wrong 3 -The Married Man


Mr. Wrong 4 -The Abuser


Mr. Wrong 5 -The Miser


Mr. Wrong 6 -The Clinger


Mr. Wrong 7 -The Narcissist


Mr. Wrong 8 -The Obviouslycannotmakeit


Mr. Wrong 9 -The Two Timer


Mr. Wrong 10 -The one who's never there


HER MR. Right



Anyone with the Ms Wrong - 10 Types?

Bomb-Bing! Bomb-Bing!

GI saves Iraqi boy in long-shot adoption


"Baba! Baba! The water is getting all over me!"
"It's not water, it's snooooow."


"It's just another ordinary miracle today. Life is like a gift they say. Wrapped up for you everyday." Ordinary Miracle sung by Sarah McLachlan.

25種你該遠離的男人

1. 有過出軌紀錄
　　同時與數位女性交往，又和每一位感情很好，愛來愛去，不知在愛哪一個；或者是已經有要好女友，卻又愛上其他女人，這些都表示這個男人無法接受傳統的一夫一妻制。

2. 過度自戀自以為了不起
　　喜歡吹噓自己的長處，並否認短處；在外人面前很會裝腔做勢；在自己人面前則挑剔別人缺點，而且死不承認問題出在自己身上。喜愛自己勝過一切，而且認為所有人都該吹捧他，喜歡那種被吹捧的優越感，這種人會把自己犯的過錯都推給身邊最親近的人。小心他失意時，會把妳貶損到一文不值。

3. 自卑感過重
　　非常害怕遭遇挫折，會因為禁不起打擊而自動放棄。這種性格軟弱的男人，雖然表現得十分謙卑溫順，但也會以自己的軟弱來博取許多大女人或女強人的愛心和同情心。他一方面以征服女強人來滿足自卑心理，另一方面也依賴女強人吃軟飯。表面上，他可能是善理家務的新好男人，但仔細觀察後，妳會發現他其實很幼稚。

4. 喜歡吹噓交女友經驗
　　津津樂道交女友的各種方法、手段，還不自覺地流露出下流的語氣，以交女友經驗豐富為榮。這種男人十分懂得衣著打扮和討女人歡心，他追求妳的時候像情聖，其卻只是個愛情騙子。他愛妳的時候像個人，不愛的妳時候像畜生。他根本沒有感情，重視的是「 性 」，妳對他而言只是「 發洩的對象 」。

5. 時常被女性追求，又不善拒絕
　　他有許多吸引女人的條件，尤其容易吸引一些大膽的女子追求他，而他又是那種不善拒絕的人，會以各種不得已的理由來解釋、搪塞，表示被女人追求是防不勝防的事，希望妳忍耐、包容。如果不及早離開他，當因緣際會時機成熟時，他遲早會背棄妳。

6. 經常做出不雅動作
　　這種男人天生淫蕩，不知道經常撫摸自己下體是不雅的動作，他非常喜歡女人撫摸或口交他的下體，甚至為解決當時的性衝動，便要求妳不用脫衣服，要在不適當的場所做愛。這種男人天生就不是一夫一妻制的男人，會四處尋找性伴侶。

7. 生性叛逆
　　隨口說髒話、罵人，或因家教良好、接受良好教育，使他雖然外表文雅但牢騷滿腹。他天生就有叛逆性格，沒有絲毫感恩之心。反傳統、反道德、反社會、反制度。這種人無人可以駕馭他，妳對他再好、付出再多，也不會換來他一丁點感激，他可以在無任何理由下，與妳翻臉，因為他很可能是個精神有問題的男人。

8. 喜歡追求刺激的快感
　　喜歡到處亂跑，結交各類朋友，增廣見識，好像人緣很好、吃得開，很能幹。但是因為好奇心重，喜歡新鮮刺激的事物，因此常瞞著大家去碰觸禁忌事物，藉此帶來許多快感。這種男人一定會去嘗試外遇、偷情和與眾不同的性行為方式。小心他傳染性病給妳。

9. 家庭背景複雜
　　家中有三姨太、四姨太，或父親一生風流韻事不斷，表示他天生有風流男人的遺傳因子。如果他的家庭對他父親的風流保密和默認，表示他還有大男人主義思想，妳對他的風流外遇連干涉的權利都沒有。

10. 朋友們異性關係複雜
　　如果他有很多朋友異性關係複雜，以嫖妓為樂，並同時與各種類型的女性交往。他遲早也會受影響，成為同樣類型的男人，妳得小心！

11. 猜疑心重
　　太多的嫉妒使他變成神經質的猜疑者，永遠對妳的行為做最壞的假設，使妳百般困擾。他可能攻擊妳的性格缺點、外貌缺失，以貶低妳的價值來控制妳，實際上，他自己有滿腦子的偷腥念頭，不得不投射到妳的身上。妳嚴重受他約束，但對他的偷腥行為卻被蒙在鼓裡。
12. 不願意「 有固定工作 」或「 固定工作時間 」的男人
　　經常換工作、不喜歡有固定工作，表示他也不會受妳約束，或對妳負起責任。工作時間不固定，出差、開會，輪班、加班、和工作地點不固定的男人，比較有機會外遇，也比較容易找到藉口外遇，妳可能被蒙騙很久都不知道，必須提高警覺。

13. 喜歡圍繞在不同女人身邊
　　不管自己身旁是否有女伴，在公共場所中，他特別喜歡圍繞在形形色色的女性身邊說笑話，逗她開心，看到美女特別起勁。這種男人會使妳誤以為他只是好玩，而非好色，剛開始時或許他並不想追求這些女性，但是當他們友情熱絡之後，交往越密切就越可能發生戀情，這也算是會偷腥的男人。

14. 他的父母反對你們交往
　　他的父母反對你們交往，必定有他們的理由，也或許他們天生就是非常挑剔刻薄型的父母，如果妳不能解決反對的理由，婚後必定難以應付。甚至，他的父母可能會在婚後鼓勵他外遇，以另結新歡來拋棄妳。這種父母在台灣非常多，妳得小心這種男人聯合他的父母一起來欺負妳。

15. 自稱工作狂
　　即使是工作狂的男性，在愛上一個女人時，無論多麼繁忙，也會抽空見她一面來舒解壓力，畢竟，與相愛的人在一起是件很開心的事。如果他經常以工作忙碌為藉口，工作到很晚，使妳感到他已經忽略妳的存在，無論他有多好的理由，妳都應該另尋對象。因為妳不是他的最愛，更何況他可能另有其他女人。總之，你們的親密關係不存在。

16. 不能許下承諾
　　每當妳把話題帶到穩定兩人關係，如：彼此不再交往其他異性朋友訂婚、結婚，或想認識他的家人和朋友們時，他總是閃爍其詞，用盡各種理由推託，表示他根本不想和妳維繫長期關係。他目前尚未與妳分手，可能是他暫時沒找到比妳更合適的女人，也可能妳還有其他利用價值。

17. 貪玩又有一群死黨
　　他非常重視朋友，在乎朋友的感受甚於妳的感受。這群男人在一起比親兄弟還親密，因此，他很可能會隨朋友去搞七捻三，使他的變數太多而難以駕馭。一旦這群人達成共識，會互相把風，彼此交換抵禦女友的方法，使妳防不勝防。如果妳不能討好他這群些死黨，反過來，他的死黨們還很可能遊說他拋棄妳。

18. 有毒癮經驗
　　迷上吸毒是挫折感較重和易受挫折的象徵，這些人無法面對真實的人生和自己，不善於處理問題而開始吸毒。當他們染上毒癮後，就封閉情感，即使原本是非常重感、講義氣的人，也會因此而變成最沒有感情的男人。不僅有異常性行為，在平時也有許多異於常人的觀念與行為，絕不是妳能約束和了解的男人。

19. 酗酒成癮
　　喜歡喝點酒是許多人的習慣，但有些男人一遇到困難，就不能積極地去解決，反而藉酒澆愁或找其他藉口，因此養成酗酒的惡習，藉酗酒放縱他的獸行，亂說亂喊，隨意摸女人，任意要求性行為。或招致一些債務，要老婆代為償還，藉故打人、打老婆，將所有過錯歸罪他人，無法自我反省。妳無法掌握他何時會使出暴虐行為，長期處於驚恐之中，嚴重時他還可能會殺了妳，還是溜之為妙。

20. 經常挑剔妳的缺點
　　生活中他給妳極大的壓力，使妳深信妳配不上他；或是用怪異的眼神藐視妳，好像妳身上有什麼不對勁和對不起他的地方。這種男人終有一天會令妳崩潰，即使他有再好的條件吸引妳，妳都必須遠離他。因為他不時打擊妳的自信，並不斷尋找比妳更好的女人，讓其他女人把妳比下去，否則，他會要妳竭盡所能伺候他，妳為此勞心勞力像個奴隸一般，最後還是一場空，還有可能罹患精神病。

21. 貧賤夫妻百事哀
　　他和妳在一起是為了錢，當妳幫助他的能力消失時，他會露出非常慌張害怕的神情，這種男人絕不會和妳過貧窮的日子，他不會為了愛情而留在女人身邊，即使妳救過他，幫助他渡過一場致命的大病，他也不會因為妳的付出，犧牲掉自己的一生幸福。妳不應該為他賺得榮華富貴，讓他享受，應該及早離開他。他的特徵是永遠要衣著考究、生活舒服、飲食講究、有品味、有氣派、一副上流社會男人的模樣。

22. 他認為靠近妳是下賤的事
　　每當他與妳相處或靠近妳，就有莫可奈何的表情，很無趣、想打瞌睡、缺少共同話題，或隱約露出厭惡的表情。他渴望離開妳已經表現得十分明顯，也許妳費盡心思照顧他太久、也太多，妳自貶身價才使得他待妳如此惡劣。對這種男人，妳應該抬高身價，像個高高在上的公主，他才會捧著妳；如果妳卑賤地去遷就他，他就將妳視為下賤的女人。

23. 喜歡妳為他爭風吃醋
　　他喜歡向妳炫耀過往女友有哪些比妳好的地方，或誇耀目前一些條件好的女人，當妳不高興或露出吃醋的表情時，他會辯解沒有惡意，並露出很冤枉委屈的樣子。其實他根本就是心懷惡意的男人，他知道自己沒有什麼了不起的條件，但總有辦法找到條件好的女人來自抬身價。他是最下流的男人，因為他沒有條件，還不斷利用其他女人來打擊妳。

24. 永遠不體貼妳
　　他從來不知道妳生病和辛苦勞累，不願意照顧妳，當妳需要他時，他就借機開溜。妳連續發現他有這種徵兆，表示他是非常自私的男人，他很會投機取巧、甜言蜜語、裝成很懂事、很體貼各種人、很重感情。他利用這些裝出來的優點吸引別人和他的朋友，也吸引妳愛上他，但是妳真正需要他時，他卻一再開溜，或無可奈何地虛假陪伴，這些都表示他不是可以長久信賴的男人，妳必須學習照顧自己或安排其他出路。

25. 一個沒感情的男人
　　表面上看起來你們好像性格不合，他處處都在忍受妳的嘮叨，即使妳罵他，他也不回嘴，默默承受妳的憤怒。最明顯的是在溝通時，妳無論問什麼，他都沒意見一副淡漠態度，不管妳死活。為什麼他這麼冷漠？當然是他的心已遠離，很可能另有新歡。妳對他那麼好，他怎麼會去另結新歡呢？信不信由妳，這種沒感情沒良心男人，會找藉口對妳說：你們「 性格不合 」的原因，而他必須另外找一個更了解他的女人！不如妳先放棄他，也不要管他死活，好好地過自己的人生。古人說「 君子好交，小人難防 」，連做朋友都難防，何況與小人做夫妻更是防不勝防，尤其要注意「 有才能的小人 」「 沒有才能的小人 」還要難防。

Love

Keeping the Love Tank Full by Gary Chapman

The Need for Love
Straying 'love'? Focus on the kind of love that is essential to our emotional health: the need to feel loved.

Running on Empty
When people don't see eye to eye? When a child really feels loved, he will develop normally, but when the love tank is empty, the child will misbehave. Their misbehavior is a misguided search for the love they did not feel.

Speak Their Language
Do what you say more important? Make it your goal to discover it and speak it, and their love tank will be full.

Love is Learned
Why to love is to learn. Meeting our deep need for intimacy and love.

Discover them through The 5 Languages of Love

"Life is the dancer and you are the dance." Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose

"Of all forms of caution, caution in love is the most fatal." Anonymous

"Blessed is the season which engages the whole world in a conspiracy of love!" Hamilton Wright Mable

"Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction." Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Signs that your relationship is over

You may be in an abusive relationship if he or she:
- Is jealous or possessive toward you.
(Jealousy is the primary symptom of abusive relationships; it is also a core component of Sexual Addictions and Love Addiction.)
- Tries to control you by being very bossy or demanding.
- Tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off social contacts and friendships.
- Is violent and / or loses his or her temper quickly.
- Pressures you sexually, demands sexual activities you are not comfortable with.
- Abuses drugs or alcohol.
- Claims you are responsible for his or her emotional state. (This is a core diagnostic criteria for Codependency.)
- Blames you when he or she mistreats you.
- Has a history of bad relationships.
- Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you that they are concerned for your safety or emotional well being.
- You frequently worry about how he or she will react to things you say or do.
- Makes "jokes" that shame, humiliate, demean or embarrass you, weather privately or around family and friends.
- Your partner grew up witnessing an abusive parental relationship, and/or was abused as a child.
- Your partner "rages" when they feel hurt, shame, fear or loss of control.
- Both parties in abusive relationships may develop or progress in drug or alcohol dependence in a (dysfunctional) attempt to cope with the pain.
- You leave and then return to your partner repeatedly, against the advice of your friends, family and loved ones.
- You have trouble ending the relationship, even though you know inside it's the right thing to do.

He says; she says
Woman: Would you get married again if I died?
Man: Definitely not!
Woman: Why not -- don't you like being married?
Man: Of course I do.
Woman: Then why wouldn't you remarry?
Man: Okay, I'd get married again.
Woman: You would? (With a hurtful look on her face)
Man: (audible groan)
Woman: Would you sleep with her in our bed?
Man: Where else would we sleep?
Woman: Would you put away my pictures, and replace them with pictures of her?
Man: That would seem like the proper thing to do.
Woman: And would you let her use my golf clubs?
Man: She can't use them -- she's left-handed.
Woman: (silence)
Man: Sh*t.

"The only way to have a friend is to be one." Ralph Waldo Emerson

Seven Deadly Workplace Sins

The 7 deadly sins order teachings used by Pope Gregory the Great in the 6th Century AD to educate and instruct followers...

A leaf off Donald J. Trump's thoughts on WorkPlace Sins
Pride
In one sense, pride is absolutely necessary. You have to be proud of your work, proud of your accomplishments, proud of your abilities. That’s an undeniable given. Personally, I don’t want people working for me who aren’t confident in their talents and skills and aren’t pleased with their success.
But there’s a fine line. Rarely do people achieve everything alone. Be sure to acknowledge the work and the contributions of your co-workers. If your ego gets too big for the room, you lose the respect and the support of your team. And no one can go it alone.

Envy
Jealousy is stupid. It is a waste of time and it’s destructive. Nothing good can ever come of it, so there’s definitely no room for it in the workplace. If a co-worker gets a project or a promotion that you wanted, then don’t spend time stewing over it or lamenting that it should’ve been yours. Instead, turn the opportunity around.
Use the situation to motivate yourself to work harder, to achieve more so that next time you’ll be the one who gets the chance to make the big deal or who gets the big client or the big raise.
In addition, if your peers see that you are envious of their success, it will do nothing but create a rift between you and that creates an unhealthy working environment. You have to work as a team and that just can’t happen when there’s an underpinning of resentment.
Use someone else’s success to fuel your own motivation.

Anger
This is a tough one. In general, I’d have to agree that anger doesn’t belong in the workplace. It can create a hostile environment and people who are prone to angry outbursts are often seen as unprofessional by their employers.
However, I think that leaders occasionally may have to use their anger in the workplace. I don’t mean that they should run around yelling at their employees, slamming doors and punching walls. But often people who are too soft-spoken and easy-going are steamrolled by those who work for them and with them. If they use their tempers wisely and show people that they mean business, all of a sudden those clients and employees and co-workers will sit up and take notice.
Like in all aspects of life, the squeaky wheel gets the grease. You don’t want to be squeaking (or in this case, yelling and screaming and pounding the desk) too often. But if you do it occasionally, you’ll make your point.

Greed
One of my often-quoted sayings is “Greed is good,” so I have mixed feelings about greed being a workplace sin. I believe that you have to be motivated by some sort of insatiability for success. I guess that’s greed in a way. If you’re not driven, you won’t succeed.
Where greed can hurt you is if you want too much too soon and you only consider the short term, forgetting that some time you have to sacrifice the here-and-now in order to plan ahead. It’s worth it in the end when you work hard toward a long-term goal instead of only living in the present.
So, yes, greed is good, because it inspires you and drives you to work hard so you achieve and win and succeed. But don’t let it get in the way of long-term success.

Sloth
There are few things I hate more than laziness. I work very, very hard and I expect the people who work for me to do the same. So if you’re lazy at work, you will get absolutely nowhere. While you’re sitting back twiddling your thumbs, you will watch everyone else whiz right by you on the fast tracks of their careers.
If you want to succeed, you cannot relax. You can’t do just the minimum, just what it takes to get by. Complacency is ridiculous for anyone who has aspirations of success. Treat every day, every project, every client as if your entire career depends upon how you handle it.
I never take vacations because I can’t handle the time away from my work. I recently read that these days, a high percentage of the people who do take vacations tend to check email and voicemail and call in to the office when they leave. Those are the people I want working for me.
Never be lazy. Never be complacent. When you sit down to do nothing, everyone will race by you.

Gluttony
When it comes to success, it’s hard not to want it all. And, to be honest, I’m not so sure that’s a bad thing. This, to me, is a lot like greed. If you have high aspirations and yearnings for big things, then you work hard and long and fast to get it.
But the caution here is that if you gorge yourself on just one thing - like someone sitting down at an incredibly prepared meal who later can’t push away from the table - then you lose. You become overwhelmed by that one experience and maybe too sluggish to tackle other projects or maybe even other parts of your life.
Some people think my work is my life. That’s true in a sense. But I also have time for a wonderful family and some fun, especially golf. Even then, I do business while I’m out on the links, but I enjoy what I do.
Overindulging in any one thing isn’t healthy - even if it’s work. Find a way to maintain some kind of balance and you’ll succeed.

Lust
First of all, it’s not what you’re thinking. Get your mind out of the gutter. When I’m discussing lust in the office, I mean an intense longing for other people’s success or other people’s work instead of your own. (Not an intense longing for the attractive person in the next cubicle.)
Here, they liken the sin of lust in the office to the “grass is always greener” theory. If you are obsessed with what your co-workers are accomplishing or striving for, then it’s guaranteed that your own achievements will pale in comparison.
Don’t become consumed with anything but your own work and your own triumphs. Any other obsession will create a negative environment and foster resentment and just not be constructive.
In the office, the only passion you should have is for your own work and your own victory. Don’t watch anyone else climb the ladder of success. Focus on yourself and you will succeed.

Gandhi's Seven Deadly Sins
1. Wealth without Work
2. Pleasure without Conscience
3. Science without Humanity
4. Knowledge without Character
5. Politics without Principle
6. Commerce without Morality
7. Worship without Sacrifice

Cave Cave Deus Videt



"Even though it looks like a no-brainer, it's very difficult for people to change their behavior. That's part of where we come in. It's hard to convey how much this work has to do with helping clients see their world in a new way. It's challenging them on who they really are." Chris Wahl on Career Coaching.

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, People will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." Maya Angelou

"The good people in the world outnumber the bad, but the bad often make a bigger splash." Dr. Michael Stone

Knowing & Being

Michael Polanyi, 11-3-1891 to 22-2-1976, Theorist of Science.

Here are two Polanyi Principles, derived from his work, adapted from Wally Bock's article, 'Everyday realities of helping groups to be more productive'.

Polanyi Principle: It doesn't matter what you know if it doesn't affect results.
Polanyi calls this "personal knowledge." Using knowledge of inquiry for use of systematic doubt to drive positive outcomes. Ask yourself: "How will I use this?" and "How can I apply this?" Hmmm, right, practice makes perfect. Discovering the value of 'tacit knowledge' and turning inner inferential experiences to documented live lessons.

Polanyi Principle: We don't start with facts.
Polanyi studied how scientists worked and his conclusions work for us, too. He pointed out that scientists' skills, biases, and passions determine what they work on and how they work... Think about how we normally describe 'problem solving'. We usually say that we are objective and therefore begin with the facts, but that's not exactly accurate. Rather, most of the time, we begin with the opinions based on our own biases, tendencies and backgrounds. These opinions determine where and what we look for as facts. There's nothing wrong with this. It's just humanity at work. But if we know that most of us begin problem solving and decision making with unstated assumptions and opinions, we can spend quality time rooting them out and exposing them in the light of brain storming and discussion thus preventing the pursuit of something unattainable (wild goose chase).

"Common experience also tells us that in teaching we rely on an intellectual effort of the learner for recognizing that which we are conveying to him."

"Human beings exercise responsibilities within a social setting and a framework of obligations which transcend the principle of intelligence."

"I shall suggest, on the contrary, that all communication relies, to a noticeable extent on evoking knowledge that we cannot tell, and that all our knowledge of mental processes, like feelings or conscious intellectual activities, is based on a knowledge which we cannot tell."

"So long as we use a certain language, all questions that we can ask will have to be formulated in it and will thereby confirm the theory of the universe which is implied in the vocabulary and structure of the language."

"The process of philosophic and scientific enlightenment has shaken the stability of beliefs held explicitly as articles of faith."

"We could not, for example, arrive at a principle like that of entropy without introducing some additional principle, such as randomness, to this topography."


"If we understand and feel that here in this life we have a link with the infinite, desires and attitudes change. In the final analysis, we count for something only because of the essential we embody, and if we do not embody that, life is wasted. . . . As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being." Carl Jung

"Showing gratitude, however, is a key interpersonal skill. I see it as a leadership skill." Ruth Sherman, communication consultant
Preview Michael Polanyi & Wally Bock

Self discipline vs Self indulgence

THE CENTURY OF SELF


'Propaganda' aside, consider...
"Self-indulgenceand self-absorptionmasquerading as self-actualizing... recognize the need for self-discipline and behavioral self-regulation, delaying gratification..."

The Humanistic Movement

Happy Now!

A recipe for overcoming despair

A 64-year-old retiree, Mdm Lee, lost her life savings of $80,000 to con artists in July 2007. In the depths of her despair, a glimmer of hope took shape, the young girl whom she cared for as a nanny came to her rescue...

The detective engaged couldn’t crack the case but was so impressed with Mdm Lee’s cooking that he suggested that her recipes be documented. That passing comment gave Ms Yeo, the young girl now, 29, an idea of how she could help her former nanny. And so HAPPY NOW!— a collection of 20 of Mdm Lee’s specialty recipes — was launched with the help of volunteers...

Ironically, Mdm Lee, who is uneducated, has never read a book in her life. But her skills as a cook — she does mouth-watering chicken rendang, dark soy sauce chicken and mee siam, among other dishes — are well documented in the book, along with inspirational quotes and illustrations...

"Ah Sao’s (Mdm Lee) experience reminds us that while material wealth can be stolen from us, more important things like love, hope, and true friendship will always keep us strong."

Log onto HAPPY NOW! to learn more about the project and buy the book.

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Vodcast in Chinese
小主人出书报恩
Dishes in Picture


"People who consider themselves victims of their circumstances will always remain victims unless they develop a greater vision for their lives." Stedman Graham (Speaker, Author and Educator)

"The consciousness of loving and being loved brings a warmth and richness to life that nothing else can bring." Oscar Wilde

"Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible, it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could." Barbara DeAngelis

Top Billionaire Heiresses

A ranking of the world's top most intriguing billionaire heiresses by website Forbes.com shows daughters of the rich aren't all just socialites and can be hard workers. Sporty, arty and business savvy...



The women on the list are all under 40 and ranked according to their father's or mother's most recent net worth on either Forbes' World's Billionaires list, the Forbes 400 list of the Richest Americans, or Forbes Asia's 40 Richest Indians.

The successful woman is one who's able to have more than her man can provide, the successful man is one who marry such a woman...

Preview Women Entreprenuers

Are you anybody's favourite person?

"The thought manifests as the word. The word manifests as the deed. The deed develops into habit. And the habit hardens into character. So watch the thought and its ways with care. And let it spring from love, born out of concern for all beings." - Buddha

Mars & Venus

Dilemma...

Girl: "You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man."
Boy: "Why can't you just love me for who I am and not for the things I can buy for you?"

Wedding: No 'expenses spared' plans
Marriage: No 'heavy expenses' planned

The successful man is one who's able to earn more than his woman can spend, the successful woman is one who marry such a man.

"We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is that discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons." Jim Rohn