Built from scratch

Musashino Plateau - Nobuo Takahashi


"It is time for us all to stand and cheer for the doer, the achiever - the one who recognizes the challenges and does something about it." Vince Lombardi 1913-1970, American Football Coach

Valentine: The New Rules Of Attraction

Old rule: You can tell if you’re truly attracted to someone in three seconds
New rule: You can’t tell if you’re truly attracted to someone until you’ve had three dates

Old rule: Your mate must meet all the criteria on your “must list”
New rule: A “must list” looks great on paper, but paper won’t keep you warm at night

Old rule: Opposites attract
New rule: Opposites distract

Old rule: Your date’s record collection (or DVD library, or bookshelf) mirrors yours—so you must be soul mates
New rule: You want a person, not an iPod playlist

Old rule: Your first kiss should be a toe-curling experience
New rule: Your first kiss is inconsequential

Old rule: When it’s true love, you think about this person constantly
New rule: When it’s true love, thinking about this person makes you feel good

Nina Malkin is the author of 6X: The Uncensored Confessions

Eight Words With Two Meanings

1. THINGY (thing-ee) n.
Female: Any part under a car's hood.
Male: The strap fastener on a woman's bra.

2. VULNERABLE (vul-ne-ra-bel) ad
Female: Fully opening up one's self emotionally to another.
Male: Playing football without a cup.

3. COMMUNICATION (ko-myoo-ni-kay-shon) n.
Female: The open sharing of thoughts and feelings with one's partner.
Male: Leaving a note before taking off on a fishing trip with the boys.

4. COMMITMENT (ko-mit-ment) n.
Female: A desire to get married and raise a family
Male: Trying not to hit on other women while out with this one.

5. ENTERTAINMENT (en-ter-tayn-ment) n.
Female: A good movie, concert, play or book.
Male: Anything that can be done while drinking beer.

6. FLATULENCE (flach-u-lens) n.
Female: An embarrassing byproduct of indigestion.
Male: A source of entertainment, self-expression, male bonding.

7 MAKING LOVE (may-king luv) n.
Female: The greatest expression of intimacy a couple can achieve.
Male: Call it whatever you want, just as long as we do it.

8. REMOTE CONTROL (ri-moht kon-trohl) n.
Female: A device for changing from one TV channel to another.
Male: A device for scanning through all 375 channels every 5 minutes.
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"Trying to determine what is going on in the world by reading newspapers is like trying to tell the time by watching the second hand of a clock." - Ben Hecht

Anger!!!

Many of us would never think about our actions in a long term perspective, we're just too busy trying to use our influence over an encounter with someone to gain attention/privilege without realizing the harm it can cause to others or ourselves, especially so within a group of people who are close to one another...

Here is an interesting story regarding the behavior.

There was once a little boy with a bad temper. So his father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he was to hammer a nail into the back of the fence.

The first day the boy had already driven 37 nails into the fence. Then the number of nails gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally, the boy thought that he would not lose his patience again or randomly had a fit of temper. He told his father about it who then suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.

The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. It's like you plunge a knife into a man and then draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say sorry, the wound will forever be there."

A verbal abuse is as bad as a physical one. Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they are there to want to open their hearts with us.

Think about it the next time you lose your temper with someone. You'll never know when they may be your only source of assistance in a time of need.


"Anger corrupts faith in the same way that vinegar destroys honey." Prophet Muhammad

Knowing & Being

Michael Polanyi, 11-3-1891 to 22-2-1976, Theorist of Science.

Here are two Polanyi Principles, derived from his work, adapted from Wally Bock's article, 'Everyday realities of helping groups to be more productive'.

Polanyi Principle: It doesn't matter what you know if it doesn't affect results.
Polanyi calls this "personal knowledge." Using knowledge of inquiry for use of systematic doubt to drive positive outcomes. Ask yourself: "How will I use this?" and "How can I apply this?" Hmmm, right, practice makes perfect. Discovering the value of 'tacit knowledge' and turning inner inferential experiences to documented live lessons.

Polanyi Principle: We don't start with facts.
Polanyi studied how scientists worked and his conclusions work for us, too. He pointed out that scientists' skills, biases, and passions determine what they work on and how they work... Think about how we normally describe 'problem solving'. We usually say that we are objective and therefore begin with the facts, but that's not exactly accurate. Rather, most of the time, we begin with the opinions based on our own biases, tendencies and backgrounds. These opinions determine where and what we look for as facts. There's nothing wrong with this. It's just humanity at work. But if we know that most of us begin problem solving and decision making with unstated assumptions and opinions, we can spend quality time rooting them out and exposing them in the light of brain storming and discussion thus preventing the pursuit of something unattainable (wild goose chase).

"Common experience also tells us that in teaching we rely on an intellectual effort of the learner for recognizing that which we are conveying to him."

"Human beings exercise responsibilities within a social setting and a framework of obligations which transcend the principle of intelligence."

"I shall suggest, on the contrary, that all communication relies, to a noticeable extent on evoking knowledge that we cannot tell, and that all our knowledge of mental processes, like feelings or conscious intellectual activities, is based on a knowledge which we cannot tell."

"So long as we use a certain language, all questions that we can ask will have to be formulated in it and will thereby confirm the theory of the universe which is implied in the vocabulary and structure of the language."

"The process of philosophic and scientific enlightenment has shaken the stability of beliefs held explicitly as articles of faith."

"We could not, for example, arrive at a principle like that of entropy without introducing some additional principle, such as randomness, to this topography."


"If we understand and feel that here in this life we have a link with the infinite, desires and attitudes change. In the final analysis, we count for something only because of the essential we embody, and if we do not embody that, life is wasted. . . . As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being." Carl Jung

"Showing gratitude, however, is a key interpersonal skill. I see it as a leadership skill." Ruth Sherman, communication consultant
Preview Michael Polanyi & Wally Bock

Self discipline vs Self indulgence

THE CENTURY OF SELF


'Propaganda' aside, consider...
"Self-indulgenceand self-absorptionmasquerading as self-actualizing... recognize the need for self-discipline and behavioral self-regulation, delaying gratification..."

The Humanistic Movement

Maximise the Power of Your Brain

As in every great idea, its power lies in the simplicity of use and optimization of purpose. Yet, ain't we all linked to one another in some direct, indirect peculiar ways?

"It's not ways of working that need to become more flexible; it's ways of thinking." Simon Caulkin

"Iron rusts from disuse, stagnant water loses its purity and in cold weather becomes frozen; even so does inaction sap the viogors of the mind." Leonardo Da Vinci

"Work is either fun or drudgery. It depends on your attitude. I like fun." Colleen C. Barrett
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Conflict Calisthenics

Introducing Conflict Calisthenics by Clarke Ching


The hands represent the 2 conflicting entities (the D and D') which flows easy in conversation. "On the one hand ... and on the other ..."
The shoulders represent the needs or concerns (the B and C entities), or "the weights on your shoulders".
The head, the heart and the belly represent the overall objective or mutual purpose (the A entity).

An apt and useful right brained presentation revolving the human self with its form.

"Science cannot resolve moral conflicts, but it can help to more accurately frame the debates about those conflicts." Heinz Pagels, The Dreams of Reason

My left sprouts: S.A.D.
Self interest (preservation?!) - "What's good for the goose is good for the gander." There is absolutely nothing wrong with that and in advancing one’s self-interest since self-interest seems to be the only one of the many motives determining actions. However, one should not argue that 'good' motives would necessarily lead to good results, especially so if qualified information and facts are withheld and/or dismissed without due considerations, in place coloured rhetoric and biased actions including spewing hostility discarding undo consequences.

Arrogance - "A feeling or an impression of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner or presumptuous claims". In arrogance, natural confidence goes sadly awry serving only and justifying for themselves at the expense of 'ill-equipped' or 'compromised' beings. "The higher the monkey goes the more he shows his tail." German Proverb

Desires - "What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don't get it. You kill and covet, but cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with the wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures." James 4:1-3
Immoderate bankrupts thoughts, kindness moves mountains.


"My dear sir, they don't debate. Each of them merely issues an ultimatum, and in what a tone! It all goes to show what extraordinary people they are, each more unequivocal than the other." - Colette, The Old Lady and the Bear


The 7 Principles of "Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desires"
1. You are a ripple in the fabric of the cosmos
2. Through the mirror of relationships you discover your nonlocal self
3. Master your inner dialogue
4. Your intent weaves the tapestry of the universe
5. Harness your emotional turbulence
6. Celebrate the dance of the cosmos
7. Access the conspiracy of improbabilities

Mars & Venus

Dilemma...

Girl: "You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man."
Boy: "Why can't you just love me for who I am and not for the things I can buy for you?"

Wedding: No 'expenses spared' plans
Marriage: No 'heavy expenses' planned

The successful man is one who's able to earn more than his woman can spend, the successful woman is one who marry such a man.

"We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is that discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons." Jim Rohn