7 Sure-fire Ways to Kill Your Promotion

Promoting?

When it comes to getting ahead in the world of work, some people make it look so easy. It's almost as if they know of a secret fast track that's helped propel them from one level to the next. They land jobs at the best companies, impress all the right people and seem to be promoted even before the ink on the job offer is dry.

On the other hand, the world of work is certainly filled with people who just can't seem to climb the next rung of the corporate ladder. No matter how hard they try or how badly they want it, being promoted seems impossible.

Susan Britton Whitcomb identifies the characteristics and behaviors that differentiate these two types of people in her book, "30-Day Job Promotion
" "Having interviewed numerous managers and worked with hundreds of career-minded clients over the years, a clear pattern has emerged: Those with the greatest promotablility demonstrated a blend of hard skills and, more importantly, soft skills. For example, confidence, critical thinking and commitment," Whitcomb says.

But what about people who can't position themselves in the promotion pipeline? Why aren't they moving forward, even though they're perfectly qualified for a higher-level position? A significant part of the problem may be that, because of their attitudes and behaviors, decision-makers ruled them out of consideration for a promotion long before the option was available.

According to Whitcomb, there are several mistakes people can make that will hinder their chances of being promoted or earning the support of their superiors and colleagues. In "30-Day Job Promotion," she outlines seven faux pas:

1. Not dressing, speaking or acting the part
When it comes to being promoted, looks do matter. If you don't look the part, it will be much more difficult for decision-makers to envision you in it. Instead of dressing sloppily or inappropriately, strive to dress in a manner similar to people two levels above you.

2. Being unprepared with talking points about the value you'd bring to the position
Just because the decision-maker in the promotion process is already familiar with you doesn't mean you're done proving yourself to him or her. Highlight your skills, knowledge and strengths to reinforce your return on investment.

3. Being deceitful or underhanded
If you're acting friendly and respectful to superiors one moment and undermining them behind their backs the next, you risk developing a reputation for being two-faced and untrustworthy.

4. Being clueless about the big picture
Decision-makers want to know that promoting you will impact the company's bottom line. If you can't convince them that your new ideas and extra effort will achieve the company's goals, you probably won't gain their buy-in for a promotion.

5. Pouting or grousing
It's important for leaders to exude a positive attitude at all times -- both good and bad. Decision-makers will never be able to support you as a leader, worthy of promotion, if you're being bitter, negative or dismissive of others because you don't get your way at work.

6. Expecting a promotion without going above and beyond in your current position
Some people mistakenly believe that because they do their job well and do what's asked of them, they're entitled to a promotion. This couldn't be farther from the truth. Employers want to advance employees who exceed their expectations and are willing to take on more than what their job description entails.

7. Overusing the terms "my career" or "promotion" in discussions with your manager
In most situations, your employer's needs come before your own. Therefore, expressing that you'd like to take your career to the next level won't get you nearly as far as something such as, "I'm committed to doing everything I can to help this company grow and succeed."

"Remember, getting promoted is not for the faint of heart," Whitcomb says. "To climb the ladder, you'll need a proactive plan, proof of performance, the right perception of you, perseverance and a positive attitude."


Selena Dehne, JIST Publishing.


"A person is most efficient and will more quickly and easily succeed when engaged in work they love." Napoleon Hill

"If you only believe what you see, then you are limited to what's on the surface. If you only believe what you see, then why do you pay your electric bill?" Dr. Wayne Dyer

9 Ways of Happiness Lead to Success

How we think about happiness and success has profound implications for how we run our lives. If we think that success mainly leads to happiness then we are more motivated to focus on success to the exclusion of happiness right now, assuming that happiness will naturally flow from success when we obtain it.


People in a positive mood are more likely to:

1. Talk to others. In one experiment men in a positive mood were more likely to talk to a woman and to make self-disclosures, which are important in social relations.

2. Be interested in leisure activities. People in a good mood want to throw a party, go on vacation or go out for a meal.

3. Enjoy those social interactions and leisure activities more.

4. Resolve conflicts effectively. Studies have found people in a good mood are more likely to try and collaborate rather than avoid conflict and compete when they are put in a positive mood.

5. Help others. When in a good mood, people are more likely to display what psychologists call 'prosocial behaviour' - helping others and being generous with both time and money.

6. Feel healthier. Experimental evidence shows that people in a good mood experience less pain and perceive themselves to be more healthy.

7. Be more creative. People in a positive mood are more likely to think with originality and flexibility - perhaps through encouraging playfulness.

8. Perform complex tasks better. Somewhat controversial this one but some evidence supports it although it probably depends on the nature of the task.

9. Attribute success to their own skills. Good moods improve people's self-efficacy (our confidence in our own abilities).

Feeling better in the moment is not only more pleasant but is also likely to open our minds to opportunities at work, play and in our personal relationships. It's recognising and taking these opportunities that will lead us to success.


Experiential versus material purchases
(Adapted)
Leaf Van Boven from the University of Colorado and Thomas Gilovich from Cornell University carried out an intriguing experiment that gets at this question of whether materialism results in less happiness (Van Boven & Gilovich, 2003).

Materialism is a dirty word. It also gets a bad rap in psychology. Studies consistently show that people who agree with statements like "You will buy things just because you want them," tend to be:

Less satisfied with life,
Less happy,
More likely to be depressed,
More likely to be paranoid,
More likely to be narcissistic.

Why do experiences fare better than possessions?
1. Experiences improve with time (possessions don't).
The reason why experiences improve with time may be because it is possible to think about experiences in a more abstract manner than possessions. Material possessions are harder to think about in an abstract sense. It's more likely the experience of that summer has taken on a symbolic meaning that can live longer in your memory than a possession.

2. Experiences are resistant to unfavourable comparisons.
How we might view positive events. It's well established that social comparisons can have a huge effect on how we view what might seem like positive events. That is, in other words, it's not about how much we earn, it's about how much we earn in comparison to other people. It's the social comparison, then, not the actual amount of money, that affects how we feel about our earnings. Comparing possessions, however, is generally easy. It's more difficult to make an unfavourable comparison when there is nothing directly comparable.

3. Experiences have more social value
There are two reasons experiences have more social value than possessions. First, experiences tend to encourage social relationships and increased social relationships are good for our happiness. Second, it is more socially acceptable to discuss our experiences with others. People who bang on about their possessions are considered much less likeable than those who talk about their holiday adventures.

Limitations
- The experiments examined here looked at short-term emotions - will these short-term emotions add up to long-term happiness?
- Highly materialistic people might actually get more pleasure out of material purchases than experiences

REFERENCES
Lyubomirsky, S., King, L. & Diener, E. (2005) The benefits of frequent positive affect: Does happiness lead to success?

Van Boven, L. (2005) Experientialism, Materialism, and the Pursuit of Happiness.

Seven Reasons NOT to Get Married

"Those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this" (1 Corinthians 7:28b).

Can you imagine this passage of Scripture quoted as part of a wedding ceremony? The Apostle Paul's realistic take on marriage goes against the romantic ideal of "love at first sight" and, even more, the belief that wedlock will bring perpetual bliss. But Paul's opinion on marriage (not surprisingly, Paul chose to remain single) does spotlight a truth that couples cannot afford to ignore – whether they're contemplating getting married, are already engaged, or have been wed for years.

Being a husband or wife is not easy. More specific, marriage will, at times, bring great difficulty. Divorce remains prevalent because many couples do not realize this, so when trouble comes, they give up too soon, hurt and disillusioned as their definition of what a marriage should be becomes shattered.

Consider each one carefully and honestly. You should probably not get married if...

1. You are unwilling to put the needs of another person above your own.
Romans 12:10 says, "Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves." In the Greek, "devoted" is defined in this verse as reciprocal tenderness, while "honor" is identified as showing deference to another person. How often are these characteristics apparent in how you behave toward your fiancé or spouse?

2. You are easily offended, carry grudges, and are unwilling to forgive.
An overly sensitive, vengeful or calloused attitude has no place in any relationship, especially a marriage. The Bible gives you the challenging yet correct standard: "Forgive as the Lord forgave you" (Colossians 3:13b).

3. You are an abusive person (mentally, emotionally, physically).
Author and domestic violence expert Lundy Bancroft finds that abusers – who, by the way, are primarily men but also include women – abuse for a variety of reasons. These include a need for power and control, finding someone to blame for their problems, and wanting to be the center of attention. Do you see yourself anywhere in these attributes?

4. You do not share the same beliefs, values, life priorities, or vision.
"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24). Oneness is essential in marriage, and its foundation is built on these characteristics.

5. You have an unresolved addiction problem.
"Like a city whose walls are broken down," Proverbs 25:28 says, "is a man who lacks self-control." The Web site Addictions.org lists a variety of harmful addictions affecting millions of people, including addictions to sex, shopping, sleeping, people pleasing, perfectionism, pornography, and overworking. Each will undermine a marriage if ignored.

6. Your career is the most important thing in your life.
Philippians 2:3 says, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves." Selfish ambition is interpreted in the Greek as "a desire to put one's self forward, a partisan and fractious spirit," while vain conceit is identified as "groundless, empty pride." Examine how your profession shapes who you are. Does it bring out these traits in you?

7. You are unwilling to be an active sexual partner with your spouse.
As a couple, read 1 Corinthians 7:1-5. The Bible speaks directly to this vital issue; verse 3 is clear: "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband." There's no room in a healthy marriage for sexual games, and an active sexual relationship works to ward off temptation to sin.

Don't be discouraged if you struggle with any of the above reasons. A quality marriage is not defined as one that's perfect. But do yourself, and your future or current spouse, a favor by committing to change or grow stronger individually in each area. You won't regret it, and will be able to face and overcome the "troubles" of marriage with unity and in God's power.

– Dr. Randy Carlson (Reprinted from "Insights and Inspiration," Family Life Radio newsletter, November 2006.)


"I've made an odd discovery. Every time I talk to a servant I feel quite sure that happiness is no longer a possibility. Yet when I talk with my gardener, I'm convinced of the opposite." Bertrand Russell

Buddha's Five Remembrances

The Plum Village Chanting Book by Thich Nhat Hanh


I am of the nature to grow old. There is no way to escape growing old.

I am of the nature to have ill health. There is no way to escape ill health.

I am of the nature to die. There is no way to escape death.

All that is dear to me and everyone I love are of the nature to change. There is no way to escape being separated from them.

My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand.

Friendship

"A friend is one to whom one may pour out all the contents of one's heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away." Arabian Proverb

Love is not about age or money

"One thing I hate most about people is they tend to measure everything and try to explain love in numbers - whether it's in terms of age, the amount you have in the bank, or how many millimetres your cheeks have receded."

"I feel that love is love is love. There is no definition, and we shouldn't try to encompass love in words."

"As long as you make each other happy and support each other, as long as you know you're not doing anything wrong... then everything is okay." Dr Hayden Khom, 27, on his love.

Pairing with younger women?

It Might Be You

Genuine Service

ST Forum:
IN 1977, my husband and I went to the United States on an exchange programme. When we settled into a pleasant town, Scarsdale in New York, a local representative was quick to make us feel at home. He invited us to his church and his home and I was invited to give a talk about Singapore.

To gather material, I visited our United Nations office in New York where the staff were very helpful. Busy as the ambassador was, he spared me a few minutes. The ambassador, Professor Tommy Koh, warmly welcomed me into his office, asked how he could help and loaned me a documentary about Singapore.

He noted my contact details. I didn't expect him to follow up as he was obviously a busy man. To my surprise, he did. We were among a group of newly arrived Singaporeans he and his wife hosted to a Singapore meal at their residence.

Subsequently, Mrs Koh arranged a visit for us to Chinatown to source for belacan, chillies and other Asian condiments. The Kohs invited us back on National Day. When I delivered my baby, Mrs Koh remembered. The Kohs made us feel proud to be Singaporean. We returned home to live because we are proud to be Singaporean.

It was different when my daughter enrolled in Cornell University. When the Public Service Commission (PSC) representative visited her university to meet Singapore scholarship-holders studying there, she hosted a dinner for the scholars. The few non-scholar Singaporeans who were excluded felt unappreciated and undervalued.

When my daughter was posted to Hong Kong by her company, she discovered no active organisation bringing Singaporeans, especially the younger ones, together. The website of the Singapore-Hong Kong Association was outdated.

Shouldn't our Singapore missions, and government officials when they are abroad, do more to reach out to their fellow Singaporeans, and shun them less?

Tan Gek Kim (Mdm)


"If something comes to life in others because of you, then you have made an approach to immortality." Norman Cousins

A History of Evil

"Teach the young people how to think, not what to think." Sidney Sugarman

Up your relationship
Mary Jo Fay, RN, MSN, author of When Your “Perfect Partner” Goes Perfectly Wrong, offers these tips to help you and your partner develop trust in each other.

- Be consistent.
- Be on time. When you have to be late, call and say you’ll be late.
- Be fair, even in an argument.
- Be sensitive to the other’s feelings. You can still disagree, but don’t discount how your partner feels.
- Being a good listener.
- Carry out your fair share of chores.
- Respect your partner’s boundaries.
- Try not to overreact when things go wrong.
- Do what you say you will do, and call when you say you will call.
- Don’t lie — not even little white lies — to your partner or to others.
- Don’t dig up old wounds. Remember that once you say things, you can’t take them back.
- Don't be jealous.

Valentine: The New Rules Of Attraction

Old rule: You can tell if you’re truly attracted to someone in three seconds
New rule: You can’t tell if you’re truly attracted to someone until you’ve had three dates

Old rule: Your mate must meet all the criteria on your “must list”
New rule: A “must list” looks great on paper, but paper won’t keep you warm at night

Old rule: Opposites attract
New rule: Opposites distract

Old rule: Your date’s record collection (or DVD library, or bookshelf) mirrors yours—so you must be soul mates
New rule: You want a person, not an iPod playlist

Old rule: Your first kiss should be a toe-curling experience
New rule: Your first kiss is inconsequential

Old rule: When it’s true love, you think about this person constantly
New rule: When it’s true love, thinking about this person makes you feel good

Nina Malkin is the author of 6X: The Uncensored Confessions

How do ants know what to do?

Armed with a backhoe and a handful of markers, Deborah Gordon studies ant colonies in the Arizona desert. She asks: How do these chitinous creatures get down to business -- and even multitask when they need to -- with no language, memory or visible leadership? Her answers could lead to a better understanding of all complex systems, from the brain to the Web.

Ant biologist Deborah M. Gordon has spent decades digging in the Arizona desert to decipher the chemical, genetic and behavioral codes of ant colonies. Contrary to the popular notion that colonies have evolved into efficient, organized systems, she has instead discovered that the long evolution of the ant colony has resulted in a system driven by accident, adaptation and the chaos and "noise" of unconscious communication.

Her studies of the harvester ant have shed light on the evolution of aggregate systems, whether biological or virtual, and may someday yield clues tracing the evolution of the brain from neuron to cortex.

Gordon, a Stanford professor, wrote the acclaimed book Ants at Work, outlining her discoveries in generous, nontechnical detail.
"What (Gordon) has discovered by charting the life cycles of 300 ant colonies spread across a 25-acre swath of chapparal are findings which upset many of our assumptions about how the world works."
APF Reporter

Daniel Goleman: Why aren’t we all Good Samaritans?

Daniel Goleman

Your Friend, Your LOve

沒有一百分的另一半，只有五十分的兩個人。

付出真心，才會得到真心，卻也可能傷得徹底；
保持距離，就能保護自己，卻也註定永遠寂寞。

通常願意留下來跟你爭吵的人，才是真正愛你的人。

有時候不是對方不在乎你，而是你把對方看得太重。

冷漠有時候並不是無情，只是一種避免被傷害的工具。

如果我們之間有１０００步的距離，
你只要跨出第１步，我就會朝你的方向走其餘的９９９步

為你的難過而快樂的，是敵人；
為你的快樂而快樂的，是朋友；
為你的難過而難過的，就是那些，該放進心裡的人。

就算是ｂｅｌｉｅｖｅ中間也藏了一個ｌｉｅ。

真正的好朋友，並不是在一起就有聊不完的話題；
而是在一起，就算不說話，也不會感到尷尬。

朋友就是被你看透了，還能喜歡你的人

Stephy Tang 鄧麗欣 日久生情

Real Friends, Fake Friends

FAKE FRIENDS: are the reason you have no food.
REAL FRIENDS: never ask for food.

FAKE FRIENDS: never seen you cry.
REAL FRIENDS: cry with you

FAKE FRIENDS: borrow your stuff for a few days then give it back.
REAL FRIENDS: keep your shit so long they forget its yours.

FAKE FRIENDS: know a few things about you.
REAL FRIENDS: could write a book about you with direct quotes from you.

FAKE FRIENDS: will leave you behind if that is what the crowd is doing.
REAL FRIENDS: will kick the whole crowds ass that left you.

FAKE FRIENDS: would knock on your front door.
REAL FRIENDS: walk right in and say “I’M HOME!”

FAKE FRIENDS: are for awhile.
REAL FRIENDS: are for life.

FAKE FRIENDS: will take your drink away when they think you’ve had enough.
REAL FRIENDS: will look at you stumbling all over the place and say “Hey drink the rest of that you know we don’t waste.” Anon

The Way to Make Friends 交友之道

Bomb-Bing! Bomb-Bing!

GI saves Iraqi boy in long-shot adoption


"Baba! Baba! The water is getting all over me!"
"It's not water, it's snooooow."


"It's just another ordinary miracle today. Life is like a gift they say. Wrapped up for you everyday." Ordinary Miracle sung by Sarah McLachlan.

Love

Keeping the Love Tank Full by Gary Chapman

The Need for Love
Straying 'love'? Focus on the kind of love that is essential to our emotional health: the need to feel loved.

Running on Empty
When people don't see eye to eye? When a child really feels loved, he will develop normally, but when the love tank is empty, the child will misbehave. Their misbehavior is a misguided search for the love they did not feel.

Speak Their Language
Do what you say more important? Make it your goal to discover it and speak it, and their love tank will be full.

Love is Learned
Why to love is to learn. Meeting our deep need for intimacy and love.

Discover them through The 5 Languages of Love

"Life is the dancer and you are the dance." Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose

"Of all forms of caution, caution in love is the most fatal." Anonymous

"Blessed is the season which engages the whole world in a conspiracy of love!" Hamilton Wright Mable

"Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction." Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Anger!!!

Many of us would never think about our actions in a long term perspective, we're just too busy trying to use our influence over an encounter with someone to gain attention/privilege without realizing the harm it can cause to others or ourselves, especially so within a group of people who are close to one another...

Here is an interesting story regarding the behavior.

There was once a little boy with a bad temper. So his father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he was to hammer a nail into the back of the fence.

The first day the boy had already driven 37 nails into the fence. Then the number of nails gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally, the boy thought that he would not lose his patience again or randomly had a fit of temper. He told his father about it who then suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.

The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. It's like you plunge a knife into a man and then draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say sorry, the wound will forever be there."

A verbal abuse is as bad as a physical one. Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they are there to want to open their hearts with us.

Think about it the next time you lose your temper with someone. You'll never know when they may be your only source of assistance in a time of need.


"Anger corrupts faith in the same way that vinegar destroys honey." Prophet Muhammad

Knowing & Being

Michael Polanyi, 11-3-1891 to 22-2-1976, Theorist of Science.

Here are two Polanyi Principles, derived from his work, adapted from Wally Bock's article, 'Everyday realities of helping groups to be more productive'.

Polanyi Principle: It doesn't matter what you know if it doesn't affect results.
Polanyi calls this "personal knowledge." Using knowledge of inquiry for use of systematic doubt to drive positive outcomes. Ask yourself: "How will I use this?" and "How can I apply this?" Hmmm, right, practice makes perfect. Discovering the value of 'tacit knowledge' and turning inner inferential experiences to documented live lessons.

Polanyi Principle: We don't start with facts.
Polanyi studied how scientists worked and his conclusions work for us, too. He pointed out that scientists' skills, biases, and passions determine what they work on and how they work... Think about how we normally describe 'problem solving'. We usually say that we are objective and therefore begin with the facts, but that's not exactly accurate. Rather, most of the time, we begin with the opinions based on our own biases, tendencies and backgrounds. These opinions determine where and what we look for as facts. There's nothing wrong with this. It's just humanity at work. But if we know that most of us begin problem solving and decision making with unstated assumptions and opinions, we can spend quality time rooting them out and exposing them in the light of brain storming and discussion thus preventing the pursuit of something unattainable (wild goose chase).

"Common experience also tells us that in teaching we rely on an intellectual effort of the learner for recognizing that which we are conveying to him."

"Human beings exercise responsibilities within a social setting and a framework of obligations which transcend the principle of intelligence."

"I shall suggest, on the contrary, that all communication relies, to a noticeable extent on evoking knowledge that we cannot tell, and that all our knowledge of mental processes, like feelings or conscious intellectual activities, is based on a knowledge which we cannot tell."

"So long as we use a certain language, all questions that we can ask will have to be formulated in it and will thereby confirm the theory of the universe which is implied in the vocabulary and structure of the language."

"The process of philosophic and scientific enlightenment has shaken the stability of beliefs held explicitly as articles of faith."

"We could not, for example, arrive at a principle like that of entropy without introducing some additional principle, such as randomness, to this topography."


"If we understand and feel that here in this life we have a link with the infinite, desires and attitudes change. In the final analysis, we count for something only because of the essential we embody, and if we do not embody that, life is wasted. . . . As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being." Carl Jung

"Showing gratitude, however, is a key interpersonal skill. I see it as a leadership skill." Ruth Sherman, communication consultant
Preview Michael Polanyi & Wally Bock

Maximise the Power of Your Brain

As in every great idea, its power lies in the simplicity of use and optimization of purpose. Yet, ain't we all linked to one another in some direct, indirect peculiar ways?

"It's not ways of working that need to become more flexible; it's ways of thinking." Simon Caulkin

"Iron rusts from disuse, stagnant water loses its purity and in cold weather becomes frozen; even so does inaction sap the viogors of the mind." Leonardo Da Vinci

"Work is either fun or drudgery. It depends on your attitude. I like fun." Colleen C. Barrett
Mindgraphicmap etc Free Trail Download

Conflict Calisthenics

Introducing Conflict Calisthenics by Clarke Ching


The hands represent the 2 conflicting entities (the D and D') which flows easy in conversation. "On the one hand ... and on the other ..."
The shoulders represent the needs or concerns (the B and C entities), or "the weights on your shoulders".
The head, the heart and the belly represent the overall objective or mutual purpose (the A entity).

An apt and useful right brained presentation revolving the human self with its form.

"Science cannot resolve moral conflicts, but it can help to more accurately frame the debates about those conflicts." Heinz Pagels, The Dreams of Reason

My left sprouts: S.A.D.
Self interest (preservation?!) - "What's good for the goose is good for the gander." There is absolutely nothing wrong with that and in advancing one’s self-interest since self-interest seems to be the only one of the many motives determining actions. However, one should not argue that 'good' motives would necessarily lead to good results, especially so if qualified information and facts are withheld and/or dismissed without due considerations, in place coloured rhetoric and biased actions including spewing hostility discarding undo consequences.

Arrogance - "A feeling or an impression of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner or presumptuous claims". In arrogance, natural confidence goes sadly awry serving only and justifying for themselves at the expense of 'ill-equipped' or 'compromised' beings. "The higher the monkey goes the more he shows his tail." German Proverb

Desires - "What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don't get it. You kill and covet, but cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with the wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures." James 4:1-3
Immoderate bankrupts thoughts, kindness moves mountains.


"My dear sir, they don't debate. Each of them merely issues an ultimatum, and in what a tone! It all goes to show what extraordinary people they are, each more unequivocal than the other." - Colette, The Old Lady and the Bear


The 7 Principles of "Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desires"
1. You are a ripple in the fabric of the cosmos
2. Through the mirror of relationships you discover your nonlocal self
3. Master your inner dialogue
4. Your intent weaves the tapestry of the universe
5. Harness your emotional turbulence
6. Celebrate the dance of the cosmos
7. Access the conspiracy of improbabilities

Importance of Laughter

What’s So Friggin' Funny?
Nothing—laughter is simply how we connect.